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		<title>The Twenty Seven Club &#8211; Lucy Nichol</title>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 13 Mar 2021 13:05:58 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[Drugs and booze. Hedonism and debauchary. It’s not just rock stars who are living a wild life. Emma works in a mind numbingly dull nine to five in&#8230;]]></description>
										<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Drugs and booze. Hedonism and debauchary. It’s not just rock stars who are living a wild life.</p>
<p>Emma works in a mind numbingly dull nine to five in her home city of Hull. Friends, nights out and a love of rock music are keeping her sane. When news of Kurt Cobain’s death breaks in 1994, she becomes consumed with anxiety, the death of one of her favourite musicians causing an existential crisis. Her 27th birthday is fast approaching and she fears she may be next to join the club.</p>
<p>So begins a plan to put it right. In this pacy, witty and utterly relatable novel, Lucy Nichol explores issues of finding an in crowd, knowing your place, figuring out what matters, and growing into your own skin. She uncovers what makes Emma tick and how her relationships and friendships keep her going. And she does it all with the passion and fierceness of someone who loves music.</p>
<p>It&#8217;s a fiercely pacy novel that perfectly explores coming of age, and what it means to grow into yourself. Insightful, tender and thought provoking it&#8217;s an easy read that explores big issues in a relatable way. Although at times a nostalgia trip, it&#8217;s certainly not only for anyone who was there.</p>
<p>Nichol is open and honest about her own mental health, and a big advocate for funding, challenging stigma, and being open and honest about it. She writes with the rawness and intensity of someone who has been there.</p>
<p>The novel is already being adapted for stage by Live Theatre and will be taking to the Newcastle stage.</p>
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		<title>Gary Finnan &#8211; Billy Tapper Zillionaire</title>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 18 Apr 2020 16:01:45 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[It’s hard to get on in life. Especially when you’re a tapper in a British railyard in the tough years following World War II. But all young men&#8230;]]></description>
										<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>It’s hard to get on in life. Especially when you’re a tapper in a British railyard in the tough years following World War II. But all young men have dreams, and Billy is one of them. He has big ideas for him and his childhood sweetheart Meg, and an unexpected windfall helps him to get there. Postwar Britain needed some colour, and that’s certainly what <a href="https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B0828B6G8F" target="_blank" rel="noopener"><em>Billy Tapper Zillionaire</em> </a>got.</p>
<p>For the protagonist in Gary Finnan’s debut novel, railways soon give way to rock’n’roll, Elvis, and The Beatles. Billy is swept up in a whirlwind of breathtaking intensity as he goes on an adventure to America to discover a new life. Through the story the issues of the class system, American culture, and relationships are all explored. Personal growth parallels social change, and our hero is tested by the new temptations of wine, women, and gambling. But throughout it all he keeps home and Meg and Mam at his heart.</p>
<p>Life changed for Billy as he grew up in the 1950s and 60s, like it changed for many around the word. However, this pacy novel does at times feel a little far fetched. It’s quite a steep trajectory from tapping rails to drinking with Elvis, even for someone with a lucky windfall. A flight of fancy for sure, and that’s fine, but it all seemed a bit too unrealistic. Glory is fleeting, fame ephemeral, and things soon change. But Billy is a likeable character, and throughout it all maintains his generous spirit and sense of what is right. Gary Finnan is a good writer, and knows the right beats to hit in this coming of age novel.</p>
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		<title>Lara Feigel &#8211; The Group</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 01 Apr 2020 08:19:34 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[Exploring the friendship of five middle class women in their forties who met as students at university, Lara Feigel’s The Group is a deliciously funny and poignant read.&#8230;]]></description>
										<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Exploring the friendship of five middle class women in their forties who met as students at university, <a href="http://www.larafeigel.com/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Lara Feigel</a>’s <em>The Group</em> is a deliciously funny and poignant read. Moving between first person accounts of each woman, Stella, Kay, Polly, Priss and Helena, we’re treated to intimate ideas and insightful thoughts from each, as well as the relationships between them. Children, marriages, careers, relationships – all are up for exploration. Who has fulfilled their promise? Who is living life in the right way?</p>
<p>As well as their general lives, in a post #MeToo world the novel explores a controversial activity and the difficulties about knowing who is telling the truth. The modern landscape is difficult for both women and men, and the book doesn’t shy away from this.</p>
<p>It’s a little tricky to get into, and confusing at times, but very pointedly written. The women are a bot frustrating, and clearly very privileged – not that that means they can’t have problems.</p>
<p>It’s Lara’s first novel, and the critic and professor at UCL has written extensively about the lives of individuals in history, bringing in their personal lives to their public.</p>
<p><em>The Group</em> clearly takes its cue from Mary McCarthy&#8217;s 1963 frank, absorbing novel about a group of female graduates and is an interesting portrait of contemporary female life and friendship.</p>
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		<title>Carol LaHines &#8211; Someday Everything Will All Make Sense</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 31 Jan 2020 12:38:12 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[Someday Everything Will All Make Sense, Carol LaHines’ debut novel, is, on the surface about death from choking on a wonton. But what it’s really about is grief,&#8230;]]></description>
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<em>Someday Everything Will All Make Sense</em>, Carol LaHines’ debut novel, is, on the surface about death from choking on a wonton. But what it’s really about is grief, the process of rehealing, and the profound impact that the loss of a loved one has on us.





Luther van der Loon, a harpsichord virtuoso and professor of medieval music at a New York university, is eccentric and already struggling, but he hits a low after his mother dies from choking on a Chinese takeway, and he failed to dislodge the wonton using the Heimlich maneuvere. His long term girlfriend Cecilia offers therapeutic support and discourages Luther’s obsession with sueing the Chinese as a way to assuage his own guilt.





The universality of love and loss flickers throughout the book, which is warm and funny. Luther’s neuroses are painted tenderly, even when he is at his most irrational. His early music obsession offers metaphors for emotions and is threaded throughout the novel, although sometimes a bit too heavily.





Eventually he gets there. But ‘there’ is not portrayed as a destination, rather Luther settles into a life where the wonton incident does not consume every moment of his day. He is able to accept the loss of his mother, and live his life. Because living is all any of us can do.

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		<title>Two Steps Forward &#8211;  Graeme Simsion &#038; Anne Buist</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 09 Apr 2018 08:46:15 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[It was their own journey on the Camino de Santiago de Compostela, the famous pilgrims&#8217; walk through France and Spain, that prompted husband and wife writer duo, Graeme Simsion,&#8230;]]></description>
										<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>It was their own journey on the Camino de Santiago de Compostela, the famous pilgrims&#8217; walk through France and Spain, that prompted husband and wife writer duo, Graeme Simsion, author of The Rosie Project and The Rosie Effect, and Anne Buist, to write <em>Two Steps Forward</em>. But it’s the magic of the journey and its ages old pull that sustains the novel and is the backdrop for a tale of self discovery and love. Told primarily through the perspectives of Zoe and Martin, a recently widowed artist and a divorced British engineer, the book takes the reader on the journeys of individuals trekking the pilgrims route, all of whom are looking for something, whether they know it or not.</p>
<p>It&#8217;s said the Camino de Santiago de Compostela changes its wayfarers irrevocably. And our characters are changed. They find what they are looking for in their own lives, with the support of one another.</p>
<p>It’s rare to find a love story focused on characters in middle age rather than the throes of young lust. The maturity of the characters affords Simsion and Buist space to explore other themes such as family, health and careers. Despite the length of the trek the journey is sometimes chalustrophic for the characters, but the writing never feels this way.</p>
<p><em>Two Steps Forward</em> won’t change your life in the same way that the Camino de Santiago changed the lives of both the characters and the authors, but it will grab your interest and intrigue, and perhaps encourage you to consider your own journey and where you are going.</p>
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		<title>Secret Shores by Ella Carey</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 26 Sep 2017 12:39:41 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[Secret Shores is a glorious book. Ella Carey takes us on a journey through the eighties publishing world in New York, the Australian post war modernist movement, romantic&#8230;]]></description>
										<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><em>Secret Shores</em> is a glorious book. <a href="http://www.ellacarey.com/library/secret-shores/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Ella Carey </a>takes us on a journey through the eighties publishing world in New York, the Australian post war modernist movement, romantic Rome and the inner world of her characters through intelligent and enthralling prose.</p>
<p>Our protagonist, Tess Miller finds her editing career floundering when she’s given a new assignment working with an old and obscure poet Edward Russell. His story of Rebecca Swift, an artist of yesteryear, is compelling, but there’s something else that captures Tess. Could the searing and tragic romance of which he writes be true wonders Tess? In a bid to garner publicity she goes on a quest to explore the true story, and ends up both rekindling an old romance and finding a new one herself.</p>
<p>The past and present are carefully intertwined, and both described with acute detail. It’s elegantly written and the themes of art, authenticity, generational conflict and love are delicately explored, but at the same time a captivating plot keeps the compulsive pace. Poignant moments are frequent, but never overused or overwrought, and there’s plenty of dramatic twists to hook you in further.</p>
<p><em>Secret Shores</em> is Carey’s third novel, <em>The House by the Lake</em>, <em>From a Paris Balcony</em> and <em>Paris Time Capsule</em> all being bestsellers. It&#8217;s out now on Lake Union Publishing.</p>
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		<title>StoryJacking: Change Your Inner Dialogue, Transform Your Life by Lyssa Danehy deHart</title>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 13 Aug 2017 18:40:45 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[When it comes to self help books, I was always going to like one about &#8216;storyjacking.&#8217; It appeals to the inner writer in me. In StoryJacking: Change Your Inner&#8230;]]></description>
										<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>When it comes to self help books, I was always going to like one about &#8216;storyjacking.&#8217; It appeals to the inner writer in me. In <a href="https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B0716M4T4Y" target="_blank" rel="noopener"><em>StoryJacking: Change Your Inner Dialogue, Transform Your Life</em></a> coach Lyssa Danehy deHart outlines her seven step process to getting out of your own way and on with your life. She doesn&#8217;t pretend that this book contains all the answers or that she can work miracles. This isn&#8217;t a self help book full of sh*t. Instead it&#8217;s a practical guide to getting curious about your life and creating the kind of existence that lets you shine. Honest, witty, and at times brutal, deHart&#8217;s voice is that of a friend who calls you out on your crap, and gets you moving towards the good stuff. When plot twists come up, you can write the next chapter. deHart isn&#8217;t here to tell you what that chapter is, but she will give you the pencil so you can get on and do it yourself with confidence and power.</p>
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		<title>Richard Reed &#8211; If I Could Tell You Just One Thing</title>
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					<description><![CDATA[Richard Reed is a successful man. An entrepreneur from a young age, he built up Innocent Drinks from a market stall to a hugely successful brand that was&#8230;]]></description>
										<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><a href="https://twitter.com/richardreedinno" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Richard Reed</a> is a successful man. An entrepreneur from a young age, he built up Innocent Drinks from a market stall to a hugely successful brand that was sold to Coca Cola for millions.</p>
<p>But he knows that he couldn’t have done it alone, and credits his success to four brilliant pieces of advice, each given to him just when he needed them most. Since then he has made it a habit to ask everyone he meets and admires, for whatever reason, to ask them for their best piece of advice. If they could tell him just one thing, what would it be?</p>
<p><a href="http://ificouldtellyoujustonething.com/order-the-book" target="_blank" rel="noopener"><em>If I Could Tell You Just One Thing</em> </a>is a collection of those pieces of wisdom, from a broad spectrum of politicians, celebrities, creative and business people, including President Bill Clinton, Sir David Attenborough, Bear Grylls, Richard Curtis, Mario Testino and Joanna Lumley.</p>
<p>65 different people are featured in the book – Reed clearly has an enviable address book – with the expansive advice covers everything in life: relationships, career, motivation, money, desire, habits and more.</p>
<p>But it’s not a guide to becoming an entrepreneur or millionaire. Instead it’s a conglomeration of wisdom that works for some, and may well work for you. Advice is always best heard, understood, and then filtered through personal experience and situation. Like a recipe, the perfect blend can help you live the life that works for you, as an individual.</p>
<p>So Jonathan Ive, designer at Apple suggests that it’s about focus, and advises that everyone find what their focus is. ‘Just do one thing. And aim to become best in the world at it.’ Arguably Apple have done just that.</p>
<p>The enviable life of Richard Branson may seem out of reach, but that doesn’t mean that his advice for life is irrelevant. Private islands, barbecues on the beach, daily tennis – it’s all play and no work right? Wrong. Because Branson works hard. Relentlessly. The thing is that he has fun doing it. ‘People talk about work and play as if they are separate things, with one being there to compensate for the other, but all of it is life, all of it is precious. Don’t waste any of it doing something you don’t want to do. And do all of it with the people you love.’</p>
<p>Similarly, Annie Lennox speaks of passion, and finding what makes you get up and go. ‘There will be moments in life when a light may go on, when you think to yourself, ‘I must do that,’ whatever it is….Cultivate it. Find that deeper purpose in your life.’ Whether that’s saving donkeys or writing hit songs, supporting the homeless or helping your mother, it’s valuable counsel indeed.</p>
<p>When travelling with  President Clinton’s Reed was in awe unwavering commitment to his people and presence when with them, and describes the former US president as an ‘ unstoppable force’ in the community, hugging, speaking, posing and listening. His advice was simple – see them. Be fully present in the conversation.   “I’ve come to believe that the most important thing is to see people. The person who opens the door for you, the person who pours your coffee. See them. Acknowledge them. Show them respect. The traditional greeting of the Zulu people of South Africa is ‘sawubona’. It means, ‘I see you.’ I try and do that.”</p>
<p>The lovely Olivia Coleman believes her own big break was a cleaning job as a teenager, as it taught her the importance of having something else to support her whilst acting, and the value of working in theatre and film and the joy it brings her. But it’s not cleaning that is her advice. Instead it’s a daily ritual that brings beauty to not only her life, but those of others. ‘I have a little rule that I’ve had for about 20 years now. When I leave my front door in the morning, I’m not allowed back in till I’ve done something nice for someone. It makes you feel nice and helps you remember you’re lucky.’</p>
<p>It’s the kind of piece that works well as an audiobook, as every time you dip in for even a few minutes you’re rewarded with some enriching thoughts and inspiration – although a pen and paper to jot down some of the insights could be handy at times. A repository of wisdom, Reed explains in the introduction that &#8216;o<span class="s1">ver time I hope to help create a global commons of advice, a shared pool of wisdom that everyone can both contribute to and gain from. After all, as a species we are much more alike than we are different. And while everyone’s path through life is unique, we can all benefit from the knowledge of more experienced walkers ahead.&#8217; </span></p>
<p><span class="s1">The experiences of these 65 people are well worth listening to.</span></p>
<p>Published on Canongate, and available now on <a href="http://www.audible.co.uk/pd/Business/If-I-Could-Tell-You-Just-One-Thing-Audiobook/B01M9DB06O" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Audible.</a> <span class="adbl-label">Written and narrated by</span> <span class="adbl-prod-author"><a id="AuthorSearchLink" class="adbl-link author-profile-link" href="http://www.audible.co.uk/search/ref=a_pd_Busine_c2_1_auth?searchAuthor=Richard+Reed"><span style="color:#0066cc;">Richard Reed</span></a>. </span></p>
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										<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><a href="http://derrenbrown.co.uk/" target="_blank" rel="noopener"><strong>Derren Brown</strong></a>’s job is to use psychology to convince. When he’s up there on stage and entertaining audiences, he guiding those in front of him to believe things – to tell themselves stories that may not be true. So he’s pretty well versed on how the brain works. You’d think we might be by now, having lived with our brains for…oh, all our lives. but the trouble is that they are clever things, and capable of fooling even themselves.</p>
<p>It’s why the diet industry, entrepreneurial get rich quick schemes and self help happiness field is so saturated with ‘solutions’ – that don’t work. You’d think that we would have figured by now that there’s something that the elusive ‘top 5 steps’ approach can’t be readily taught, or perhaps even achieved.</p>
<p>Derren Brown’s new book <em>Happy: Why More or Less Everything is Absolutely Fine</em> is about stepping back from that. Finding a place of ‘good enough.’ Not the catchy title that usually grabs you in the book shop, but one that might help us to find, if not blissful nirvana, a state of contentment.</p>
<p>Because, most stuff is alright. And even when it’s not, those negative events themselves rarely hurt us; it is usually our beliefs, feelings, or judgments concerning those events which do. Instead, it’s the gap between our expectation and reality that is the source of unhappiness. If you lower your expectation, your contentment tends to increase. Does this mean giving up and not striving to be all that we can?</p>
<p>Far from it. He is scathing of books like <em>The Secret</em> by Rhonda Byrne, the 28 million copy bestseller that preaches the premise that the law of attraction is the key, and by thinking positive thoughts we will get all we need. The message that if you work and wish hard enough you’ll get what you want, and if you don’t, it’s your own fault, is one that he says is ‘toxic.’ And I agree.</p>
<p>One danger is the constant goal setting and planning that stops us being present. It’s very difficult to appreciate what you have, when you’re not really there, but ‘consistently orientated toward something that’s always on the horizon.’ Life just passes you by – and so of course you’re not satisfied with it.</p>
<p>But Brown isn’t coming up with anything particularly groundbreaking and radical here. He is heavily influenced by the Stoics, and quotes Seneca –‘ A man&#8217;s as miserable as he thinks he is’ &#8211; and Epictetus &#8211; ‘Man is disturbed not by things, but by the views he takes of them’ &#8211; amongst others. There’s echoes of Stephen Covey’s sphere of influence idea from his classic <em>The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People</em>, and I’m reminded of <em>The Serenity Prayer</em> by American theologian Reinhold Niebuhr (1892–1971) and it’s plea to God to ‘grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change.’</p>
<p>The book is long, and there’s a rather lengthy few chapters on dying that could be trimmed down. But it’s a compelling and important message that deserves being repeated.The words we tell ourselves matter. Stories are powerful and create our worlds. Tell a better story, and accept that &#8216;The route to real happiness is about realising what you have now, rather than focusing on what could be.’ says Brown. It&#8217;s nothing new, but continues to be very true. When will we realise it?</p>
<p><em>Happy: Why More or Less Everything is Absolutely Fine </em>by Derren Brown is published by Random House. Available on <a href="http://www.audible.co.uk/pd/Non-fiction/Happy-Audiobook/B01KG2AM4K" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Audible</a>, narrated by Jot Davies.</p>
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